Earlier this week, Charly took a trip to the orphanage to collect some of the boys’ paperwork for his USCIS appointment in Guangzhou this morning. To give us an extra three months past our August 22 deadline.
While he was there, God gave him the opportunity to meet the woman who has played a very critical role “behind the scenes” in our adoption. Now we know who pulled our boys’ files out of the stack and suggested that we could adopt them together.
One month ago, when Charly asked the woman helping us in Beijing to make a final check for two children in Gansu, this woman at the orphanage received a phone call. “Are there any files not yet complete for international adoption? Knowing that you don’t have any siblings there, do you have two unrelated children that this American family could adopt together?” And she chose our two boys for us, who were “like brothers.”
With our limited understanding of how much work still needed to be done to complete their files and with the quicker time estimates we heard, the process this past month has seemed quite long and drawn out. Especially as we had hoped to fly back to the US by today in order to send CJ off to college. But we came to a new appreciation of what has been going on behind the scenes after Charly met this woman at the orphanage.
She said, “We have never processed anyone’s files as quickly as we have processed these boys’ files!”
Two Fridays ago, we were praying for some major breakthroughs—for the boys’ files to not only make it to Beijing but to actually receive special approval from two directors in order for us to get matched (the Shortest Way Possible). We discovered at the end of the day that Friday that the files didn’t even make it to Beijing. So, it was disappointingly clear that there was no way we would be able to complete our adoption in time to make it back for CJ’s orientation. But God graciously gave us His peace about that decision and provided my parents as willing substitutes for us, to be there for CJ.
What had seemed like “nothing really happened” that day was all a matter of perspective. Charly learned that this woman stayed up until 10 pm that Friday night working on the boys’ files so they would be ready to send in to Beijing the next Monday.
Our perspective is so limited. What has seemed agonizingly slow to us this month has actually been incredibly expedited compared to the normal process. We are amazed by this glimpse God has given us behind the scenes, to appreciate more of the Big Picture. And to learn how He has worked (and is continuing to work) through people like this wonderful woman, to bring our adoption to completion. In His way and in His time.
“My thoughts are completely different from yours,” says the Lord. “And my ways are far beyond anything you could imagine. For just as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts higher than your thoughts.” Isaiah 55:8-9